I don’t know how other men are, but documentaries like My Boyfriend, the Sex Tourist, don’t make necessarily despise the men involved or mock them. Instead, I wonder how much I am like them, if I could be like them, what would it take for me to become them.
And I am scared. Am I ugly, perverted, socially inept? Could I became not only a purchaser (which is not so bad in some contexts, if it’s a fair trade on both sides) but also someone in need of purchasing sex (because I have no other option)?
I like to think that of course I am decent looking, intelligent, just “better” than those guys, but deep down I wonder. How far am I really from being that guy?
My Boyfriend, the Sex Tourist is a Channel 4 (I don’t know what Channel 4 is, I assume it’s a UK channel, like the BBC) 2 part documentary (2nd part to be shown next week, but first part came out in December) that looks at the lives of the workers at a resort in Venezuela, where prostitution is legal. Essentially, if you go to the resort, you get to get the girlfriend experience- you pick a girl among the roster, and you hangout together as if a couple, though surely, she’d be a little more submissive than a normal girlfriend.
The resort owner says that oftentimes the clients are 30 years older than the girls and supremely overweight. I was surprised that some of the clients allowed themselves to be shown, but my guess is that’s because 1) they don’t care at that state in their lives 2) it’s a UK show, and the people shown were either American or Canadian. I guess if we were to mock people who pay for these activities, then the people shown do fit those stereotypes, even a little bit creepy/abnormal/weird/uncomfortable.
The documentary doesn’t talk to the men really, but looks deeper at the women, their motivations and experiences during about a week of their lives at work. Life for them is not really roses, but it’s a job, for them one probably born out of necessity rather than them being high-end callgirls.
Anyway, if the subject matter appeals to you, and for some reason any documentaries related to sex appeal to me (a few months ago, I watched a documentary about men’s insecurity over penis size as a society), you can find this on torrent, as I did. I wouldn’t call it entertaining or deepy revealing, but just interesting.
Link: My Boyfriend, the Sex Tourist | Channel 4
